Can Men and Women be Just FRIENDS?

Actually yes, men and women can be friends. I haven’t watched JHMS so I won’t speak on that but I’ll tell you what I’ve learned empirically.

Men and women can be best of friends. They grow close together so fast, it’s amazing.

Sometimes it happens that one of the two starts developing some feelings for the other that makes them cross the line. As long as this situation is not developing, men and women can be badass friends.

Since I have always believed in this theory, I’ve never developed such feelings for my girl-friends.

Contrary to the Indian belief and common saying of Hasi To Phasi (You are set of she laughs) I have always believed that if a girl is laughing around you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s interested in taking things to the next level or pitching sex there. It just means that she wants to be friends with you as well. This is what I believe though.

I would be lying if I say the otherwise hasn’t happened to me. Sometimes, even with me, it has happened that I grew close to a girl with the believe that we’re good friends but later on, it turned out that she was infatuated or had a crush. When these things first happened, things went south for that friendship. A lot of my friendships have been ruined because of this. We were so close. I almost miss them.

But, to answer your questions, yes, they can be friends!

I have too many girl-friends!

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Top 10 Reasons Why Someone Should Not Date You?

  1. I’m incredibly introverted – Being physically close to a large amount of strangers has given me anxiety attacks before, and I guarantee it’ll happen again.
  2. I need to know everything – I cannot stand not knowing things, if I have a question, I NEED an answer. This applies to science, maths, technology, history, all that stuff, but it also applies to people. How people work, what they like, what they don’t like. I end up creating mental profiles for everyone I meet.
  3. I act overly intelligent – This ties into my last point. While my crippling social awkwardness prevents me from doing this to people I don’t know, I relay mountains and mountains of information to people that couldn’t give a damn. It doesn’t help that I actually know what I’m taking about (my last point) and so I end up going on tangents.
  4. I can’t hold conversations – I cannot for the life of me, hold a conversation for more than ten seconds. I’ll ask how your day was, then you’ll say something along the lines of, “good”. At which point my brain has kicked into recovery mode. Recovery mode is what I’ve called the process, in which my mind bolts through every single piece of information I can muster about this person in search of a good conversation topic. More often than not, I’m unsuccessful, which leads to awkward silence.
  5. I treat everyone as equal – Now, this doesn’t sound very bad right? But think about what I’ve said in detail. I basically said that my mother, the woman that raised me and loved me for my entire life, has the same significance towards me that does someone I’ve never met. Seems unfair right? It is. Of course I’m embellishing a little. I love my mother much more than a stranger, I’ll just treat her with the same courtesy as anyone else. Respectfully.
  6. I’m a pacifist – I haven’t hit anyone since I was in preschool, so you really shouldn’t expect me to “defend your honor” with my fists if I haven’t used them in decades. I’ll try to calm things down, and be mature about the situation. Which seems like it would piss a lot of girls off for not defending them.
  7. I don’t like sex – I never have. Don’t get me wrong, I will lay beside you for hours, and do nothing but listen to your heart beat against my chest, but that’s because I crave intimacy, not animalistic noises and broken headboards. And that’s where most of my relationships have ended, I don’t have a sex drive, but my partners does. And because of that, I try, but it ends up feeling wrong for both of us.
  8. I’m not an athletic person – I have an excuse for this one. In the past I’ve had asthma attacks, heart problems, and to top it off I was in an accident a while back that left my left ankle extremely weak. To run for more than five minutes requires me to wear a leg brace, take a couple of pills, and have my inhaler in my back pocket… so no thank you to that.
  9. I am a time freak – I’m never late for an important event, and I’ll get very agitated if you’re late too. If you’re with me, and you make me late for something important, it’ll take at least till the end of the night for me to fully let it go. It’s an insignificant pet peeve, but a pet peeve nonetheless.

Things I Do After A Break-Up

My 8 year old relationship had come to an end when my ex GF told me that she doesn’t see a future with me because my career was not stable. But into the very first week after the breakup I planned a 12 Day trek in the mountains.

Later near the date I started planning a bike tour on the side.

At first I thought I will ride my bicycle a thousand Km uphill to the base camp of the trek. Later I extended my holiday with a long 20 day bike tour. And after finishing the trek I went off on a long solo bicycle tour to Laddakh. I ended up traveling over 40 days only sustaining myself with a very small amount of cash and my tiny bicycle.

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Traveling alone allowed me to have peace with myself. It helped me think about the decisions I have made. I got a lot of cool ideas while riding. I realized that now that I am single I can take much bigger risks.

On my way back a local newspaper published a story about my trip. Things started looking positive and soon enough I got my hands on a really cool international assignment.Read full story here.