Relationships: The Worst Thing A Woman Can do to a Man

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Men don’t go crazy unless there’s an underlying mental illness. It’s mostly because of intimate relationships and it’s troubles. Also, men are hardwired to look for solutions even when there are none and give up everything for the sake of their women, even if they’re downright evil.

A close friend of mine had this happen to him. Being in a relationship with a girl who was a little elder to him, he thought he would eventually end up with her. The girl battered his ego consistently, hurt him everyday with belittling words like ugly or repulsive. Trust me, this guy is really good looking yet here he was with someone who didn’t appreciate the things he used to do. I’ve been told he’s slept in bus stations. He travelled far to meet her and when he turned up in the city, she didn’t turned up.

The thing that really broke him was the constant flirting around with other men, in his presence. None of us can stand that shit. Here he was, still trying to get her to notice him. I can’t even start to imagine the battering my self respect would take in such situations. Yet, he stuck through. Although my question is always WHY, he couldn’t have answered it because psychologically the victim of mental/emotional abuse starts becoming dependent on the abuser. It gets hard to step away. He caught her in the club dancing with other men and she had told him the general, “I’ll be at home, sleeping.”

He has tried to cut himself. Fought with his parents, almost ran away from home and his insecurities had jacked up so much, any girl he came in contact with basically were driven away. The insecurities of a man being mentally abused are hard to take care of. They need to be addressed with utmost care. Otherwise they shatter like a thin piece of glass. His life had ended, he saw no way out of it. She made him a snarky, miserable image of his former self. Eventually, after three years he realized what she was doing to him and broke up with her completely. I’m just glad they never reached the marriage stage.

What my friend was, jerky with insecurities to what he is now, is a huge difference. He has now blossomed into a beautiful individual, knows what he wants out of himself and his relationships. When I see someone flourishing with self respect, it makes me happy. I can just watch him like that and fill myself with happiness.

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Things I Do After A Break-Up

My 8 year old relationship had come to an end when my ex GF told me that she doesn’t see a future with me because my career was not stable. But into the very first week after the breakup I planned a 12 Day trek in the mountains.

Later near the date I started planning a bike tour on the side.

At first I thought I will ride my bicycle a thousand Km uphill to the base camp of the trek. Later I extended my holiday with a long 20 day bike tour. And after finishing the trek I went off on a long solo bicycle tour to Laddakh. I ended up traveling over 40 days only sustaining myself with a very small amount of cash and my tiny bicycle.

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Traveling alone allowed me to have peace with myself. It helped me think about the decisions I have made. I got a lot of cool ideas while riding. I realized that now that I am single I can take much bigger risks.

On my way back a local newspaper published a story about my trip. Things started looking positive and soon enough I got my hands on a really cool international assignment.Read full story here.