You do what you have to do, because no one else is going to do it for you, or appreciate your own efforts. There’s a lot more good than bad on the whole, setting several small goals that you can work on, so if you don’t succeed at the same rate in one, you always have your other ones to complete.
I also have an attitude that no one is going to bring me down or give someone, be it a boss, or whomever, to have that much control over my time or life. You take time to be with your friends, spouse, partner, and really enjoy the time with them. But there will be times that stress and anxiety may temporarily get the best of you, so get help from a therapist or doctor. When you’re down, the only place to go is up, no sense wallowing in misery, that’s a waste of time.
One of the best things I have ever learned came from a movie. “You must train yourself to let go of things you fear to lose” – Yoda. It may sound insensitive, but you really learn to appreciate things more when you aren’t afraid to lose it/them. Find the things that make you a better you.
If you paint – go paint, if you play music – play your heart out, if you lift – go lift. My best friend had the same thing happen and we are taking a trip to Europe instead of worrying about it. It’s going to feel weird without her around, but fill your time focusing on building yourself up instead of breaking yourself down.