How Small Decisions Changed my Life?

I was 41 years old and the first thing I did when I got out of bed was hobble.

I had plantar fasciitis, a painful inflammation of the tissue that connects the toes with the heels. I also had chronic pain in my hip from frequent hiking.

I suffered from “monkey brain”, a perfectly named term that refers to being in a permanent state of frenzied distraction.

I can name other afflictions: struggle, stress, occasional anhedonia, anxiety, loneliness, melancholy.

I was in the midst of attempting to figure out what to do with my once fortunate, now tepid marriage and felt a general sense of crappiness.

On a whim, I walked into a yoga class. It’s not so much that I liked it. Rather, upon leaving I noticed a sense of peace that I had not felt for a long time.

So I went back for more.

Over time, yoga reversed the clock on my body. It not only made me calmer, happier and more grounded – I credit it for my sanity.

It taught me the power of my own breath.

Yoga is a practice. This means you don’t need to be good at it. You just need to show up.

It also means that if you show up, you will eventually be able to do things you previously didn’t think you could.

This is me. I’m 46 and thanks to deciding to try out a yoga class I don’t hobble out of bed anymore.

5 Yearly Check-Ups All Women Should Have

A woman’s health depends on a lot of factors. Every woman should make time for healthy habits — regular exercise, stress management, choosing the right foods — and she should also be scheduling routine health screenings so potential problems can be spotted early. In fact, health screenings can make keeping tabs on your health simple.

So what screenings should you be getting? These 5 are a good start.

1. Blood pressure screening. Starting at age 18, every woman needs to have her blood pressure checked at least every two years. This health screening involves wrapping a cuff around the arm and pumping it up tightly. Ideal blood pressure for women is less than 120/80 mmHg (millimeters of mercury). If your insurance doesn’t cover a blood pressure screening (though most insurance companies do), check into free screenings in your community.

2. Cholesterol check. Women should have their cholesterol checked at least every five years starting at about age 20. This screening is important for decreasing your risk of heart disease, and can be done at your doctor’s office or at a lab with a doctor’s order, as the test only involves drawing a blood sample. Some community health fairs offer quick cholesterol screenings, involving nothing but a finger-prick. If you get a high reading on this screening test, you will be referred to your doctor for more complete testing. The ideal level is below 200 mg/dL (milligrams per deciliter) for total cholesterol.

3. Pap smears and pelvic exams. Beginning at age 21, or earlier if you are sexually active, women need to have a pelvic exam and Pap smear every two years to check for any abnormalities in the reproductive system. Guidelines for this cervical cancer screening recently changed from once a year, as studies found no benefit to such frequent screenings. Barring any problems, women age 30 and older only need a Pap smear every three years if they have had three normal tests in a row. To take the Pap smear, a speculum is placed inside the vagina to widen the vaginal canal, and your doctor uses a small tool to take cells from the cervix to detect any cell changes that can lead to cervical cancer. Your doctor can also screen for sexually transmitted diseases.

4. Mammograms and breast exams. Starting around age 20, women should have a clinical breast exam at least every three years until age 40, when this should be done annually, according to most experts. This is a manual exam — your doctor uses her fingers to examine the breasts for any lumps or abnormalities. A mammogram is a screening test for breast cancer and involves applying moderate compression to the breasts so that X-ray images can be captured. Mammograms are done every one or two years beginning at age 40. (The United States Preventive Services Task Force recommends mammograms beginning at age 50, but the American Cancer Society still recommends earlier screening.)

5. Bone density screen. Women should start getting screened for osteoporosis with a bone density test at age 65. Women with risk factors for osteoporosis, such as having a slender frame or a fractured bone, should be screened earlier. For this test, you lie on the table while a scanning machine takes X-ray images of certain bones in your body. Healthy bones show a T-score (the measurement used to describe your bone density) of -1 or higher. The frequency of this health screening varies from woman to woman based on bone density and risk factors.

Relationship: Can You Stay Friend After Break-Up?

Even though it’s possible, I would actually recommend against trying this. If there wasn’t enough reason to stay, it suggests that you are moving with different trajectories as far as your lives are concerned. It’s only going to get harder to make time for the person you broke up with.

I think the issue at the heart of the matter is why you want to keep the other person around. If codependency or convenience or other similar issues are at play, be very careful and considerate as you proceed.

Breaking up is tough. I hope you find the solution you seek.

Who is the Weirdest Person You’ve Ever Met?

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his happened very long ago, early in my career,

I didn’t know him very well, but I disliked him from the start.  And for years I never could figure out why.

We were on the faculty of a large public school, but we worked in different departments and in different buildings.  I saw him often enough in the office or at the weekly faculty meeting, but we rarely spoke because there just wasn’t much for us to talk about.  He was considered handsome– that’s what the office ladies said– but I never thought so.

I can remember saying to my hall neighbor not long after he joined the faculty that he was creepy to me.  She agreed.  But he was in great with the administration, I was a new teacher, and I decided to keep it to myself.

My last year there he suddenly (and very obviously) dyed his hair and started wearing clothes that really were too trendy and youngish for a 40 year old man.  I wasn’t the only one who noticed that.  He took a school group to a competition, and when they did well he got a lot of attention for it. I still found him creepy.

Fast forward to the next academic year.  I had transferred to a different school in the same district that was closer to my home.  I opened my newspaper one morning to discover some news that somehow didn’t shock me much.  The very same individual had been arrested for sexual misconduct with a student.  He confessed, was convicted and went from faculty all-star to guest of the government in a couple of months.

I think this man had been involved in that for years.  You don’t just suddenly become a man who preys on children.

Life Advice from People Over 60 Years Old

Anyhow, I was saying that the old ladies were telling us stories when we were kids; I apologize for not being able to tell you any of those stories that my mother and my grandmother were telling me, they were good stories for us kids, since we kids would hear them many times and still we were interested in them, perhaps we were waiting for the heroes of the stories to do what they had to do to have their ways; but today I have forgotten most of these stories, therefore I am not able to tell you any of them. But anyhow this is not the only reason why I am writing this article; because what I would like to write here in the future is this; I am going to tell you the story of my life. I know that now you are thinking, what is wrong with me why should I tell you the story of my whole life? Well it is just because I cannot tell you a fairy tale anymore, since today people don’t believe anymore in fairies or fairy tales, and really, I don’t remember most of the tales that I have been told when I was young, so I could not tell you much of a story; therefore I am going to tell you the story of my life, because that is the only story that I know better than anybody else.

Now that I have decided to tell you my whole life story, starting with this hub called, (An old man life story), which is going to be also the name of my story writings, I have also to say that there are other issues that have prompt to write my life story, the main issues are written hereunder.

Firstly, I would like to tell you dear readers that I would like to write this story of to my life, in order to compare the ways of living between these days and the old time ways; since I believe that in order to tell a story and make sense to the listener or readers there should also be a purpose for it, so, if we try to compare this old life story to today ways of living, then it may make this story more interesting for everybody.

Having said that, now I wonder what it would be like if one could go back in time like in time travel fictions, how nowadays ways of living would have affected the older generations. You see, generally speaking in the old days normally time seemed to stand still and very little changes would happen, and if anything did happen it would happen very slowly, except when there were wars or some other violent happenings, like earthquake or diseases that could kill lots of people around; whereas today everything changes very fast even when there are no wars, earthquake or disease; therefore what could be said that is new today, in a few days may be said to be old. I hope you see what I mean?

Secondly, I am going to tell you about why I feel that I have to write this story, and why I believe I have to write it. You see, I feel that every human being has a story to tell, and anyone of us could tell our own story if we attach enough importance to the story that we want to tell. So, to me it happens that I believe that by telling you my life story, not only I become satisfied that I have written my own life story, but I would also feel that I am doing humanity a good service, because something can be learned from my life story. I believe that it is the life duty of any man to try to improve anything if one can, so, let me explain the way I feel about what could or would be the duty of any man here under.